Wednesday, November 25, 2009

GU Men Creating Change at the National Conference on Sexual Assault in our Schools



 Men Can Stop Rape's college chapter at Georgetown University

From November 13-15 I attended the National Conference on Sexual Assault in Our Schools in Lake Buena Vista, Florida. It was a weekend full of presentations, disgruntled tourists, $10 churros, networking/hanging with movement folks, and spotty wi-fi. It’s been a weird and inspiring journey for me from the sexism town hall my freshman year to presenting about the successes and challenges of our GU Men Creating Change (GUMCC) group last weekend. There’s been a lot of hard work, even more samosas, and plenty of K Street bike rides involved in getting me to spread the gospel of GU Men across the country.

The highlight of the conference for me was the opportunity to meet a lot of cool folks who are deeply involved in the anti-violence movement. It is not often that I get to hang out with non-college students let alone people who have been doing awesome work in a variety of locations and situations. I want to thank those people for making me as a young person feel welcome and important at the conference and in this work. I learned a lot from them as professionals in this field and I hope they learned from me as a student doing this work with other students.

Most of the presentations I saw offered me valuable insight and information about the broader anti-violence movement and specific groups that are doing effective work. The University of Rhode Island Peer Advocates presented on what their group does and I appreciated seeing how a large-scale and institutionalized peer education group works.

It reinforced for me that one of the major strengths of the Campus Strength program is that it allows for a more long-term change in campus culture through its emphasis on community building and collaboration as well as presentation, and in its flexibility in facing campus-specific challenges. Later, I got a sneak peek of Men Can Stop Rape’s new and improved bystander intervention presentation and found it to be an even more effective and challenging approach.

The last presentation I saw was by Dr. John Foubert on barriers to rape prevention (he focused on social norms marketing, post-modernism, and pornography as barriers). I was particularly interested in attending this workshop because GUMCC works from a postmodernist theoretical perspective. I appreciated Dr. Foubert challenging what he saw as barriers to successful rape prevention, but I have to say I disagreed with his assessments, especially about postmodernism. His main argument against postmodernism is that it does not believe in one essential truth and therefore ranks a perpetrator’s “truth” alongside a survivor’s “truth.” Postmodernism, though, asserts that “objective truth” is a white, cis-gendered, heterosexual, middle-class, male truth which is neither objective nor often true. We examine the truths that society produces which allows and even encourages rape. It is because of this postmodern perspective, firmly placed within third-wave feminist thought, that I believe we can effectively address what causes and allows men to rape and prevent rape. It was great to see another viewpoint expressed, though, and to have an opportunity to share my own and our group’s perspectives.

All in all, I had a very good and energizing weekend. I learned a lot from the other people at the conference and I felt reassured that I am doing important work. It is good to know that I have allies and friends from across the country that I can count on for support, guidance and accountability.
 
Jared Watkins, a double major in English and Women’s and Gender Studies, is from Farmington, New Mexico. Jared is also interning for Men Can Stop Rape's Training & Technical Assistance department.


Note: GU Men Creating Change is  part of MCSR’s Campus Strength Program. For more details about Campus Strength, please contact Joseph Vess at jvess@mencanstoprape.org.
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Friday, November 20, 2009

Jezebel Asks "What's Being Taught In College Rape Prevention Programs?"

A post on Jezebel caught our eye - not just because the accompanying image is one of the Strength Mediaworks posters we created for CALCASA - but because of its focus on college rape prevention programs.

"What's Being Taught In College Rape Prevention Programs?" starts off:
Asking men to visualize being raped is a graphic way to prove a point-but is it an effective strategy to prevent assault? College campuses around the country are beginning to adopt prevention programs and a new article examines their tactics.

On Sunday, the Chronicle of Higher Education published a piece exploring the struggles of colleges trying to measure the effectiveness of programs designed to reduce rape and sexual assault. These programs have shifted the focus from women to men - and have stepped up the idea that men can assist in preventing third party assaults...(read more)
We encourage everyone to check out our college program, Campus Strength, which has over 45 schools as chapters or affiliates. Some of our partners include DOJ Office on Violence Against Women, HHS Office of Women’s Health; Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network (RAINN); Students Active for Ending Rape (SAFER); and Greeks Against Sexual Assault. Our members examine and challenge masculinity as it relates to themselves and society, rejecting harmful aspects of traditional masculinity in favor of individual masculinities that affirm their unique realities and experiences. This positions them to create healthier, safer, and ultimately happier lives for themselves and the men and women they care about...

Check out some of the work our chapter at Georgetown University, Men Creating Change, has done on campus. Share

Feministing Posts MCSR's Response to "What's the Alternative to Tucker Max?"

Feministing posts an excerpt from "Choosing Healthy Masculinity...and What That Means" our response to  Courtney Martin's "What's the Alternative to Tucker Max?" and "Do Young Men Need A New Kind Of Masculinity?" by Jezebel blogger Anna North.

Martin says:
I got so many amazing emails after publishing my column last week about masculinity and pro-feminist men and plenty of blogs picked up on the analysis and added their own, as well. I wanted to share some of the excerpts here:
From Joe Samalin and Joseph Vess of Men Can Stop Rape:
The thousands of men and boys that we engage every year show us daily what healthy masculinity looks like. It is a group of high school boys volunteering at a local domestic violence shelter, it is straight and cis-gendered college men partnering as allies with LGBTQ student organizations, and it is the enlisted men and officers in the Air Force who come to us for training on how to create safer workplaces. These boys and men are all moving deliberately toward who they want to be.
Putting the support and encouragement of healthy masculinity at the center of what we do has taught us two key things. First, there is no single definition or ideal of healthy masculinity--there are as many definitions as there are men. Second, developing healthy, authentic masculinity is a journey, not a destination.

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Wednesday, November 18, 2009

MCSR in NY Times: NFL Star Larry Johnson "Needs to Be Held Accountable"

Men Can Stop Rape is featured in a New York Times column that focuses on troubled running back Larry Johnson and his recent signing to the Cincinnati Bengals.

Johnson has been in and out of the news for assaulting four women and more recently for posting homophobic slurs on Twitter.

"In Johnson's Signing, Talent Prevails," MCSR's VP of Programs Neil Irvin speaks about the important of holding Johnson accountable for his actions.

Kudos to columnist (and frequent ESPN The Sports Reporters guest) William C. Rhoden for focusing on men's accountability for violence against women. Check out a snippet below:


"In Johnson's Signing, Talent Prevails"

Neil Irvin has carefully monitored Larry Johnson's movement, from the time rumors began that he would sign with the Cincinnati Bengals until Tuesday, when the Bengals announced that they had signed Johnson, the problematic running back. 

Irvin is a football fan, but his interest in Johnson was professional. He is the vice president of programs for Men Can Stop Rape, based in Washington, where for nearly 10 years he has put in place programs for young men and college athletes designed to stop domestic violence and violence against women by stressing prevention.

..."If you absolutely believe this is the person for your franchise," Irvin said, "you should have a clear expectation that there is a zero tolerance for any kind of bad behavior..." 


Read more "In Johnson’s Signing, Talent Prevails" 

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Friday, November 13, 2009

Men Can Stop Rape: Two Trainings for January 2010

Men Can Stop Rape is proud to announce that it will be conducting two trainings this January 2010 - our semiannual From Theory to Practice Strength Training Jan 7-9 and a new training on Jan 21-22 for schools/agencies who are seriously interested in starting a a Men Of Strength Club for their middle school or high school students. See below for information. Please forward to interested parties! 



"From Theory to Practice" Strength Training
Thur, Jan 7 - Sat, Jan 9, 2010
Georgetown University Law Center, Washington, DC




Wondering how you can stop sexual assault and domestic violence before it even starts? Register for Men Can Stop Rape's three-day "From Theory to Practice" Strength Training" and learn the primary violence prevention strategies that have helped over 9,000 of MCSR's training recipients engage young men in this work. This is a great opportunity to broaden your knowledge and expertise in gender violence prevention, build relationships with other professionals in this field, and sight-see in our nation's capitol!



Who Should Attend?
  • Youth-serving professionals searching for better ways to teach males about healthy masculinity and positive relationships
  • Rape crisis and domestic violence center personnel looking for ways to engage men
  • Military SARC's, SAVI's, and officers
  • Activist men strategizing new ways to engage males in their community to role model strength without violence
  • College and university students, staff, and faculty who want to engage men on their campus
  • Anyone interested in doing this work
Learn how to:
1) Identify masculinity's "dominant stories" and "counterstories" and recognize how "dominant stories" contribute to violence against women

2) Explore the challenges of engaging men and learn effective ways to overcome these challenges

3) Mobilize men to become better allies with women

4) Strategize with others about how to involve men

5) Speak with men about sexism and connecting it to other "-isms" or forms of oppression

How do I register?

The 20-25 person trainings usually fill up very quickly, so please go to our website to register. Registration closes Dec 15.

Contact Joseph Vess with questions at 202/534-1836 or jvess@mencanstoprape.org.

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Men of Strength (MOST) Club Training
Thur, Jan 21 - Fri, Jan 22, 2010

Center for Education on Violence Against Women, Washington, DC



If your agency is serious about starting a middle school or high school Men of Strength (MOST) Club to prevent sexual assault & dating violence, this is the training to sign up for. Identified by the CDC as one of the top four gender violence prevention programs in the country, MOST Club has over 100 locations in DC, Florida, Maryland, Missouri, NYC, North Carolina, Ohio, South Carolina and California (through CALCASA). 



Who Should Attend?
  • Agencies interested in starting a MOST Club in middle schools, high schools, or youth-serving organizations

  • Youth-serving professionals interested in facilitating (part-time) our DC MOST Club sites


Training Objectives:

1) Learn the necessary steps for establishing a successful Men of Strength Club
2) Learn how to better frame sexual assault as a problem young men can play a positive role in ending

3) Build skills for speaking with young men about sexism and strategies for effectively challenging the culture that supports violence against women

4) Explore the challenges and opportunities of engaging male youth and learn effective ways to use both
5) Provide participants with practice responses and facilitation skills to common reactions and questions from male audiences

How do I attend?
This training requires an application process; Please go to our website to apply by the Dec 30 deadline.

Contact Neil Irvin or Kedrick Griffin with questions at nirvin@mencanstoprape.org or kgriffin@mencanstoprape.org or call 202-534-1837/1838. Share

Choosing Healthy Masculinity...and What That Means


We greatly appreciate the points raised by Courtney Martin and Anna North in their recent posts for American Prospect and Jezebel. For men and men's organizations working for gender equity, the focus is all too often limited to critiquing, protesting and saying what we're against.

However, speaking out against traditional masculinity is both a necessary first step toward new and more positive masculinities, as well as a lifelong opportunity and challenge for all men.

It is essential, as Courtney notes, not to get stuck in “stage one of gender consciousness.” We also saw men and women across the country protesting Tucker Max this summer, and being against him is, for most men, a very simple step. But in addition to signs reading “Rape is not funny” and “Men Against Tucker Max,” men also held signs reading “Sexual Equality Rocks” and “Real Men Respect Women,” clearly highlighting healthy visions of masculinity.

We see this constantly in our work at Men Can Stop Rape. The thousands of men and boys that we engage every year show us daily what healthy masculinity looks like. It is a group of high school boys volunteering at a local domestic violence shelter, it is straight and cis-gendered college men partnering as allies with LGBTQ student organizations, and it is the enlisted men and officers in the Air Force who come to us for training on how to create safer workplaces. These boys and men are all moving deliberately toward who they want to be.

Putting the support and encouragement of healthy masculinity at the center of what we do has taught us two key things. First, there is no single definition or ideal of healthy masculinity—there are as many definitions as there are men. Second, developing healthy, authentic masculinity is a journey, not a destination. Most significantly, this journey creates the space and the obligation for us to engage our humanity as we look at the intersections of class, race, gender identity and sexual orientation that we see as integral to the prevention of men's violence.

We completely agree with Courtney and Anna that there aren't nearly enough spaces and support for men to create their own versions of healthy masculinity, and at the same time we want to ensure that we are fully aware of and making the most of the spaces and support that exist and continue to grow.

Joe Samalin is the Campus Strength Coordinator and Joseph Vess is the Director of Training and Technical Assistance at Men Can Stop Rape. Share

Wednesday, November 11, 2009

CALCASA's Thoughts About Our Response to Michael Murphy Critique


Check out CALCASA's thoughts to our response to Michael Murphy's article “Can ‘Men’ Stop Rape? Visualizing Gender in the ‘My Strength is Not for Hurting’ Rape Prevention Campaign.” Our response was recently published in the journal Men and Masculinities. (If you don't have access to the journal, please e-mail us to request it.)

I just read Pat McGann’s response to an article “Can ‘Men” Stop Rape?” published in the journal Men and Masculinity analyzing Men Can Stop Rape’s “My Strength Is Not For Hurting” posters. I did blog about this article when it was initially ePublished. While I do not use a “Batman and Robin” story to make my points (as Pat did in his response), I agree with Pat that we need to determine the value of prevention materials in part by looking how it serves prevention practice. Continue reading
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Wednesday, November 04, 2009

Men Can Stop Rape Responds to Richmond Gang Rape in PTA Magazine

Our response to the gang rape case in Richmond, CA appears on a special section on PTA Magazine's website, "Preventing Sexual Violence among Teens." The featured section also includes pieces written by the PTA, Break the Cycle, and the Illinois Coalition Against Sexual Violence.
"We Can Change the Culture of Rape"
By Patrick McGann and Neil Irvin

Everyone would agree that the gang rape outside Richmond High School was horrific. While this criminal act is particularly troubling because of the large number of perpetrators and witnesses, the incident should not be viewed in isolation. According to the Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network (RAINN), a sexual assault occurs every two minutes in the United States. In Men Can Stop Rape's (MCSR) view, rape happens because we as a country have not committed to creating cultures of prevention focused on sexual and dating violence in our schools and communities.

If we pay attention to who commits rape, we see that the majority of assaults are perpetrated by men attacking women and other men. But the majority of men do not commit sexual violence and therefore are potential allies with women. By providing a blueprint for transforming bystanders into active agents of social change, MCSR mobilizes young men across the country to create cultures of rape prevention in their schools and communities.

What gets in the way of prioritizing the creation of these cultures nationwide? Victim-blaming, for one. We worry that people will hold the the young woman in Richmond accountable for her assault, especially since there were reports in the media that she had been drinking alcohol. No rape survivors are ever at fault for their assault, whatever the circumstances. To place responsibility on her is a way of diverting responsibility from the young men who committed the rape.

Outsiders typecasting sexual assault as occurring in communities with troubled youth serves as another way of not addressing rape as a social issue. In an October 28 Contra Costa Times article, one student is deeply disturbed that all the Richmond High students were described as animals in response to the assault. There were 400 students at the prom who did not commit rape. And there were female and male students who took steps to call the police. What enabled them to act in a humane manner? These students should be part of the story.

So, what can we do? First, we need an understanding of rape prevention that is broader in scope, that involves females and males, and that is based on respecting our cultures and ourselves. Historically, preventing sexual assault has been thought of in terms of females engaging in risk reduction, such as walking in pairs or dressing conservatively. For lasting change to occur, however, men and women can prevent sexual violence by challenging the attitudes and assumptions that dehumanize women. Atianna Gibbs, a recent Richmond High graduate, says in the October 28 Contra Costa Times article, "That could easily have been their sister, their mom. ...Nobody deserves that." Her comment suggests that it is easier to hurt someone who is of no importance to us than someone who is. This act of dehumanization is an attitude connected to rape and other forms of violence. Racist violence, gay bashing, and rape clearly all share this dynamic.

Fathers can serve as role models of healthy masculinity for their sons and daughters by treating everyone with respect and empathy. Mothers and fathers can discuss with their children what consent and healthy relationships look like. They can become involved with groups like PTA to work to ensure that there are multiple ways schools engage in creating a culture of rape prevention, such as classroom curricula, after-school groups, teacher trainings, and public education campaigns.

Parents should support their sons' involvement with youth programs that encourage healthy masculinity and relationships, like Men Can Stop Rape's middle school and high school Men of Strength Clubs.

Through our clubs, young men choose to define their own masculinity by evaluating whether messages about manhood, like "don't take 'no' for an answer," play a role in creating unhealthy and unsafe relationships.

They learn skills to speak out effectively when they see attitudes and behaviors that degrade women and girls. Club members translate their curriculum lessons into public education and peer education, uniting a wide cross-section of the community consisting of students, parents, educators, administrators, and business leaders. The young men in the club pledge to be men whose strength is used for respect, not for hurting.

If we want healthy cultures, empathy must occupy the center of a culture's core, nonviolence must be a shared value, and everyone must matter. Men and women can prevent rape by sharing responsibility and by recognizing that if our cultures are going to be healthy, everyone must play a part in caring to make them so.

Patrick McGann, PhD, is vice president of communications for Men Can Stop Rape, Washington, DC.

Neil Irvin is vice president of programs for Men Can Stop Rape and a member of the Forrest Knolls PTA of Silver Spring, Maryland.

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Monday, November 02, 2009

where is your line? > where the men at?


Men Can Stop Rape, Inc. is mentioned in a post by The Line about the gang rape in Richmond, CA

Love this photo from the Pace Screening a few weeks ago, and it seems particularly relevant in light of last weekend’s gang rape in Richmond California, where bystanders actually became perpetrators. They laughed, joked, took photographs and joined in. A very strong piece, “On Rape and Men” expresses the writer’s rage as a man, and demands that we approach gender violence as a men’s issue. Unfortunately, some of the reader comments suggested instead that women arm themselves with guns, or that we all collectively turn back to religion! On Facebook, Men Can Stop Rape linked to CNN’s article about bystander behavior, and these three comments were particularly interesting:

Not surprising that in the article they don’t delve into rape culture or male violence against women. Just ‘people’ who stand by and watch ‘people’ hurt ‘people’. (I know there was one example of male-male violence w/ the honor student’s killing.) I think there are deeper issues at play here regarding our society’s treatment of women and acceptance…

J says: I think a major part of the problem is America’s cultural repression of most of men’s full range of emotion/feelings, which leads to homophobia, isolation, competition, and anger. The constricted “relationship” many men end up having with women (as a result of this repression) lead to this violence.

D responds: J is typically making excuses and pointing at some external source (not the men themselves), as being the cause of their stupidity. J honey, men rape women because they want to. There is no other reason. They want to because they feel entitled to women’s bodies, to rule women’s thoughts, to be superior to women, for women to be submissive

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