We at Men Can Stop Rape believe that stereotypical masculinity (or any other term you might choose: traditional masculinity, hypermasculinity, hegemonic masculinity, dominant masculinity) is still too much the air that we breathe. It’s something we often take in automatically, unaware. As one of the significant sources of violence against women across the globe, as well as other forms of violence, and as an unconscious source of conflict for many men, stereotypical masculinity causes great harm when it goes unrecognized. We all benefit from developing healthier, non-violent masculinities. The Masculinity Conversations is intended to raise our critical consciousness by talking about masculinity. Sometimes it will follow an interview format, sometimes it will be a dialogue. Some of the people interviewed will be experts, some won’t. Some will be people who are part of MCSR’s work, some not. Let’s get the conversation started.
Patrick McGann, MCSR’s Director of Strategy & Planning
oversees the Men Can Stop Rape Masculinity Conversations. If you would like to
take part, send him an email.
Lena Slachmuijlder has
lived and worked in Africa for 21 years as a journalist, editor, human rights
defender, director, producer, performing artist, cultural facilitator, trainer,
and project manager. I first heard her talk about work she did in the Congo at
a panel organized by the Carnegie Endowment for International Peace on “Youth
Violence: The Role of Masculinity and Mitigating Factors.” Although she is now
the Chief Programming Officer for Search for Common Ground (SFCG), we talked
about work she did in her previous role for SFCG as Country Director in DR
Congo. In the DRC, she pioneered tools such as participatory theatre, a reality
TV show, and innovative approaches to army and police reform. We specifically
focused on her efforts to engage Congolese men in the prevention of sexual
Part 1 of our conversation was posted on November 17 and
focused more on masculine cultures in the Congo; Part 2, below, is more
specifically about the campaign she launched to engage Congolese men in prevention.
When I read in the Washington Post that some 18,500 candidates would compete
for 500 parliament seats in the Congo elections this week, I was again struck
by the diversity of people in the DRC (Lena brought this up in Part 1 of the
interview). Her strategy of using a popular Congolese musician to speak across
this diversity seemed very smart. You can learn more about the campaign below.
Watch the videos from the campaign and check out the posters.
PATRICK MCGANN: Given the diversity within the Congo, I'm curious
about how you settled on who you were going to reach and how you were going to
LENA SLACHMUIJLDER: We had been doing a lot of work in the
east, where sexual violence in often linked to weapons, armed groups and the
general insecurity. With this campaign we had the opportunity to reach out more
widely, to parts of Congo that are not ‘at war’ as in the east. So we decided to work with a musical
celebrity. Although Congolese superstar musicians are vastly popular across the
continent and in Europe, their music is often about love and romance, and not
very socially engaged. I was part of the team that reached out to some of the
top five musical superstars. They didn’t refuse the idea of doing it, but their
interest was financial, and they were not necessarily ready to commit the time
needed to make the campaign work. But Celeo Scram, who was part of Werrasson’s
band for 10 years and is hugely well-known, was different. He’s known for his
love songs, and he’s considered cool, and sexy. He was ready to collaborate
with us. We produced five spots, and in each spot, he’s playing a different
male role: the soldier, the father, the husband, the boss, and the boyfriend. And
before and after each spot he’s asking the audience “Are you a Vrai Djo’? It is
a popular lingala (Congolese language) was of saying the “cool guy.” It’s never
been used in the sense of someone who respects women. So we branded a popular
expression with new meaning.
PM: I just want to make sure I understand the expression.
LS: “Vrai” means true
in French, and “djo” means sort of like the guy, so it means “true guy,” “cool
guy.” Like if you imagine a girlfriend saying, “Is he the real one? Is he the
right one?” And already in some of the areas where we've shown it – even in our
work with the Congolese Police – we’ve heard people using the expression Vrai
Djo as a nickname when a guy does the ‘right thing’. And that's what we want.
We did radio spots as well on the same storylines. For the
size of our project it was relatively small and targeted. We put it on TV and
radio, and we did screenings with small groups and a few nighttime screenings,
and now it continues to be used in the east where we have a lot of ongoing
work. It’s possible that some TV stations still broadcast it if they like it.
What I also liked was the reactions of Celeo’s fans via his
fan base in Congo and in the diaspora. The spots got on line, and people
thought that it was solely his initiative, and he was getting congratulations
left and right, from women and men, saying, “Wow! That's great! I wish we had
more Congolese musicians who took a stand like you did. You should make a whole
film like this.” That was really surprising, because I thought maybe they'd
wonder “whose little nonprofit thing are you doing?” They didn't see it like
that. It was sufficiently cool; he didn't have to step too much out of his
persona, and thus it resonated with his audience, and that for me was one of
the indicators of success. I knew people watching it out in the villages would
like it because of his celebrity, but I didn't know if his fans would think it
was a cool thing for him to do. It was very reassuring that we got the tone
PM: It sounds like it's a lot about identity, trying to
create this masculine identity that's open to a certain kind of interaction
with women that's different than the traditional identity.
LS: Right, there's a scenario where the guy has a
girlfriend, they go out, they eat together, he buys her stuff, they visit the
park, and then they go back to his room, and she doesn't want to have sex. In
many people’s mind, at that point, if the man didn't insist, he would be
considered ‘weak’. In focus groups people commented, “Well, at that point she's
mine, so if I don't do it, my friends are going to laugh at me.” And so it was
quite sensitive redefining that you could still be cool and not force the girl
to have sex, even after she is in your room!
PM: And so there was this pretty significant social
marketing component. Was there any way for men to become part of the campaign?
LS: The project was small and didn’t really enable us to
spark a larger campaign at this point. We did consult with experts working on
combating sexual violence, and we pre tested it with different age and
educational groups of men. Then in addition to broadcasting it we did public
screenings in one northeastern Congolese region as well as integrating it into
our work with the army and police. We didn’t link it in with any emerging men’s
groups because of the short time frame and size of the project. But it’s
available for anyone’s use.
PM: What kind of support is there to address masculinity?
LS: It’s at the early stages. There's not enough recognition
of masculinity as an issue within the organizations working to combat sexual
and gender-based violence. The organizations trying to fight rape are largely convinced
that the best way to have an impact on men is through fear, to make them afraid
of getting caught. We're living with a weak state and with high levels of
impunity; even if they get arrested, they frequently escape from prison through
breakouts or corruption. For me, I think there are limits to the belief that people
change because of fear alone. I think that if we don’t understand why they're
raping, even if they're caught, they'll still rape because they are doing it to
respond to many other needs. They’re saying ‘I'm pissed off because I'm a
soldier and I haven't been paid. Or - This girl, she thinks I can't have her
because she's so pretty. I'm going to show her’. It's other needs they’re reacting
to when they’re committing these acts, even if they know they’re going to go to
PM: The way we would understand that is if your masculinity
is lessened in one place how do you bolster it up in another? I think that’s
what you’re suggesting. It’s not unusual in the construct of masculinity that
we’re familiar with that you’re ashamed as a man, for instance, or you feel
like you’re less of a man, and okay, this is a way if not to restore my masculinity,
at least feel more like a man.
LS: This sort of thing comes up in our work with the
Congolese army. Soldiers are among the most named perpetrators of rape in the
Congo. We’ve identified a whole range of dimensions that can influence the
soldiers to want to be a man who protects, not harms. Part of getting there is
empathy, through viewing testimonies of rape survivors, and talking about it
afterwards, “How would you feel if that’s your daughter,” that kind of thing.
Part of it is talking through the reasons that they use to ‘justify’ rape: that
they are abused and poorly paid and sent out into the jungle with nothing, far
from their wives for months or even years. And we talk about those. We also
talk about what happens if they do get caught, and sent to jail, and what their
lives and that of their families will become. We talk about the consequences
for them as people – not only going to jail – but that they could have
nightmares, they could be filled with regret for the rest of their lives, and
they could be looked down upon by others. We get into the psychological and
traumatic aspects. There are discussions at each of those moments, so you have
a three-hour session with maybe 50 soldiers led by an officer who is himself a
transformed person who is himself ready to open up. And we find they need to
talk about this.
PM: That sounds similar to our Men of Strength Clubs where
this is this hunger and desire to talk about it but there’s no space, and when
you provide the space and construct it in a certain way, they will take
advantage of it.
Just one more question. Any moments in the work that you did
with men that stand out in your memory?
LS: I think that what stood out for me was when I would
follow around our mobile cinema team projecting films at nightfall from village
to village. By 8:30 the film was over,
and the discussion is drawing to a close by 9pm. It’s dark, we’ve got a little
spotlight and microphone there, and some of the women who did come and watch
the films have dwindled away, along with some of the older people. Some of the kids
are all still there, but there’s this group of young men between 14 and 25, who
are really adamant about talking and saying it’s the women’s fault. They stay
late, and we’re not playing music to keep them there. They’re talking in a way
that is more extreme than I would expect. They’re saying things that I feel
they should be a little embarrassed to say in the Congolese culture. I lived
there for a long time, and I found that what they said was hitting a chord of
what needed to be addressed – that extreme feeling of “this is against me,”
“empowering women is an assault on me, telling me that women are the only
victims is an assault on me.” “Don’t you realize all the problems that I have?”
“Don’t you realize that I have needs?” I felt that that was really powerful.
The other thing that I felt really moved by was our work
with the army and the way in which the team of soldiers and officers that we
worked with to empower and go out and facilitate these discussions with other
soldiers really believed in what they we’re saying and we’re living it. I
remember one colonel when I was sitting with him, he said, “Of course I get
girls who come into my office and they’re offering themselves to me. I can give
them money, or I cannot give them money and still just have them. But that’s
not who I am. And he was able to say that, even though that’s another excuse
that men use – “she just wanted me.” But she’s 14 or 15. He said, “That’s not
the kind of man I am. I don’t want a little girl. That’s the age of my
daughter. That’s not what defines who I am.” I found that that was really
powerful because that’s what other men need to hear from someone like him. He’s
saying that this is diminishing my pride and my self-esteem, and I’m not going
to do that.
PM: That’s really powerful for me, too, because it is so
much about identity, and I’m convinced that we can talk about behavioral change
all we want, but unless you have an identity that somehow fits that behavior
and appeals to men in some sense, then you’re wasting your time. So it’s really
powerful to hear him say, “That’s not who I am.”
Thanks so much for taking the time to talk with me.
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