Tuesday, August 16, 2011

Creating a Healthier Masculinity on the Field: Preventing Concussions

[I am taking a break from the blog this week because of family health issues, but Joe Ehrmann, former NFL Baltimore Colts player and founder of Coaching for America, is filling in. His blog entry follows. - Patrick McGann]

I officiated the Memorial Service of NFL Hall of Fame player John Mackey this past Saturday, along with his brother, Rev. Elijah Mackey. Having been in pastoral ministry over twenty-five years, I have learned that when someone has led a relationally successful and meaningful life, it is an easy and celebratory service to lead and participate in. None should have been easier than John Mackey’s – but it was not.

As a player John is arguably the greatest to ever play his position. As a man he is one of the most respected teammates, opponents and men to ever play the game. He was the first President of the NFL Players Association and organized the NFL’s first player strike that led to increased player health and pension benefits. He helped lead and win a court challenge to end the “Rozelle Rule” which set the precedent for true free agency and the salaries enjoyed by current players. And for all he accomplished, his greatest legacy will be as a husband, father, family member and friend -- and as a role model of authentic masculinity.

Yet, John Mackey will also be remembered as the most visible face of sports' growing epidemic of traumatic brain injuries. In 2000 John was diagnosed with frontal temporal dementia that eventually led to his spending the last five years of his life in a full -time assisted living facility, unable to communicate, to recognize loved ones or to care for himself. With a push from John’s heroic wife Sylvia, his Baltimore Colt teammates and their advocacy group Fourth & Goal, the NFL and the NFLPA started the “88 Plan” named after John’s jersey number. The 88 Plan provides $88,000-a-year for nursing home care and $50,000 annually for adult day care for players suffering from various forms of degenerative brain damage.

I find it providential that after more than a decade of suffering, John Mackey’s life would end during the NFL’s longest work stoppage as the players and owners reworked their Collective Bargaining Agreement with new guidelines for health, safety and post-career benefits. NFL Commissioner Roger Goodell, upon learning of John’s passing said, “He worked closely [with] our office on many issues through the years, including serving as the first president of the NFL Youth Football Fund. He never stopped fighting the good fight.” NFLPA Executive Director DeMaurice Smith, expressed similar sincere and heartfelt thoughts, “John Mackey has inspired me and will continue to inspire our players and define our institution. He will be missed but never forgotten.” I hope so.

John Mackey’s last sacrificial gift to the NFL and its players is the opportunity to lead the world of sports in educating athletes, parents and coaches of all ages and all sports on how to prevent, diagnose and treat concussions. While football is the most visible of concussive related sports, every game must address and work through the avalanche of evidence pointing to long term mental health issues related to head traumas. Yet, when Commissioner Goodell began changing the rules on hits to the head and imposing fines and suspensions, it was the players who pushed back. All-Pro linebacker Brian Urlacher represented the opinion of many players and fans when he said the NFL should rename itself “the NFFL – The National Flag Football League.” Kevin Mawae, the President of the NFLPA who represented current players at the recent negotiations, ridiculed Goodell’s crackdown stating, “The skirts need to be taken off in the NFL offices.” They represent the decades of players coached to make and celebrate the head-rattling hits that too many fans cheer and applaud.

While I do not know what conversations took place at the negotiating table upon hearing of John Mackey’s death, I’d like to think participants took a long pause and reflected on the life, legacy and tragedy of John’s death. I hope current players rethought the rule changes needed to protect players and the responsibility to model how the game can and should be played. John Mackey will be celebrated at the Memorial, I am sure. But more than words of gratitude and plaudits should be spoken to carry on the legacy of a man who “never stopped fighting the good fight.” To truly honor our fallen teammate and leader, I hope the NFL players will demand -- and the league and union will agree to -- at least one game this season where every player wears a “88” patch on their jersey and each team airs appropriate public service announcements aimed at educating coaches, parents and young athletes on the prevention of head traumas. Then John Mackey’s life will continue to inspire NFL players, address the moral responsibility of the NFL and NFLPA to current, past and future players and honor the game. That would make for a truly celebrative Memorial Service for a man who will be missed -- but should never be forgotten.

Joe Ehrmann

Baltimore Colts ’73-80

Author of InSideOut Coaching: How Sports Can Transform Lives

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Thursday, August 11, 2011

InSideOut Coaching: Changing Masculinity on the Ballfield

By Patrick McGann
Director of Strategy & Planning

Let me be upfront: I love Joe Ehrmann. Yes, I’m using the “L” word.

“Respect” doesn’t go far enough. “Admire” won’t cut it. “Appreciate” is way too weak. “Like” seems tepid.

It’s got to be “love.”

I was going to wrap up the “How I Came to Work for Men Can Stop Rape” series, but then Joe sidetracked me. We hosted a book event at a DC Barnes and Noble this past Tuesday night featuring InSideOut Coaching: How Sports Can Transform Lives, Joe’s new book just released on August 2nd. He described the book’s contents and then took questions.

There’s so much to write about in InSideOut Coaching that I’m not sure where to start. How about transactional and transformational coaching? Transactional coaches use players to meet their own “personal needs for validation, status, and identity” (p. 5). They’re all about doing whatever it takes to win. Transformational coaches, on the other hand, “are other-centered.” They “use their power and platform to nurture and transform players” (p.6). They affirm rather than tear down. I mostly experienced transactional coaches. I'm thinking especially of the one that put us through a "gut check" my sophomore year on the high school basketball team.

To become a transformational coach requires the creation of a coherent narrative, an investigation of your own experiences of being coached – hence, the InSideOut in the title. You begin this InSideOut journey by asking these questions:

Why do I coach?
Why do I coach the way I do?
What does it feel to be coached by me?
How do I define success? (p. 109)

Joe’s answer to why he coaches: “I coach to help boys become men of empathy and integrity who will lead, be responsible, and change the world for good” (p. 110). He asserts that the messages young men receive about masculinity prevent boys from becoming men of empathy and integrity. And that’s why Men Can Stop Rape partners with Joe and Coach for America.

Joe steps outside the box and identifies Dorothy in The Wizard of Oz as a transformational coach. Given my love relationship with The Wizard of Oz (I wrote a MCSR newsletter piece years ago about the Scarecrow, Tin Man, and Cowardly Lion as examples of counter stories of masculinity), I got all excited when this former Syracuse University All-American and NFL Baltimore Colts star suggested this girl in ruby red slippers was one of his coaching heroes.

Let me end by extending Joe’s ideas for coaches by claiming that every single one of us at one time or another is a coach. You. Me. Your family. Friends. Colleagues. Cohorts. Companions. You name it. We all mentor others at some point. So we all need to ask ourselves:

Why do I coach?
Why do I coach the way I do?
What does it feel to be coached by me?
How do I define success?

Next: Reflections on How I Came to Work at Men Can Stop Rape


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Patrick McGann, Ph.D. has been involved with Men Can Stop Rape (MCSR) since the organization’s inception in 1997. As Director of Strategy and Planning, Patrick co-authored a sexual assault prevention strategy for the U.S. Department of Defense (DoD) in 2008 and oversaw the development of the HURTS ONE. AFFECTS ALL. public education campaign for DoD in 2010. He regularly gives presentations across the country on engaging men in the prevention of gender-based violence. Share

Thursday, August 04, 2011

How I Came to Work at Men Can Stop Rape, Part 5

By Patrick McGann
Director of Strategy & Planning

Just after my experience of the 1992 National Organization of Men Against Sexism (NOMAS) conference in Chicago, we left for Washington, DC where I would be teaching composition full time at George Washington University while finishing my dissertation on the politics of masculinity and academic discourse. I wanted to look for a way to continue the experience I had at the conference but didn’t have a clue how to make that happen in DC.

While we lived in Chicago, Abby and I would grab the Reader every week, an independent newspaper, and we looked for something similar after we moved. The Washington City Paper was the closest we could find. Although it didn’t seem as hip and edgy, we still picked it up each Thursday, and one of those weeks she came across an ad in the classifieds for DC Men Against Rape. She suggested I might want to volunteer with them.

I called and went to a couple meetings, but the timing seemed wrong. Our daughter needed some extra attention, I was teaching three courses a semester, and I was trying to finish a dissertation that not only challenged me academically but also personally, since part of my intent was to break down the barriers between public and private discourses. I didn’t see how I could fit in another thing.

So I told them all of that and said I was sorry. I finished my dissertation in 1995, and shortly thereafter started teaching a composition course on masculinities using Kenneth Clatterbaugh’s Contemporary Perspectives on Masculinities and Michael Messner’s Politics of Masculinities. By the spring semester of 1997, I had changed the course topic to masculinity and violence, using Bernard Lefkowitz’s Our Guys, an investigation into the sexual assault of a mentally challenged 17 year old young woman by a group of privileged high school athletes in Glen Ridge, NJ.

It occurred to me that it would make sense to invite speakers from DC Men Against Rape to come and present to my classes. I contacted them through their website, and Michael Airhart, their volunteer Web master at the time, passed on my request to Jonathan Stillerman and Patrick Lemmon, both of whom were at the few meetings I attended in 1992. Jonathan called my office and said they could present, and then remembered that he needed to ask if I would be able to pay a speaker fee. He and Patrick had just formed a nonprofit called the Men’s Rape Prevention Project.

I couldn’t pay much of a fee, but they did come and speak to all three of my classes and did a great job. After the last presentation, Patrick told me they were having a speaker training in August and that I should think about participating. I told him to call me, and he did, and I went through the training, and sometime during the next year I started doing presentations in the Metro DC area, and became a volunteer, and later worked for, the Men’s Rape Prevention Project, which in 2001 was renamed Men Can Stop Rape.

Next: Reflections on How I Came to Work at Men Can Stop Rape

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Patrick McGann, Ph.D. has been involved with Men Can Stop Rape (MCSR) since the organization’s inception in 1997. As Director of Strategy and Planning, Patrick co-authored a sexual assault prevention strategy for the U.S. Department of Defense (DoD) in 2008 and oversaw the development of the HURTS ONE. AFFECTS ALL. public education campaign for DoD in 2010. He regularly gives presentations across the country on engaging men in the prevention of gender-based violence. Share